Thursday, July 18, 2013

Budgeting for Your Wedding

There is a LOT of advice out there on the topic of budgeting for your wedding. And unfortunately? Most of it is not that great. In my opinion, the hardest thing about budgeting for a wedding is that most people only plan a wedding once — and until you start nailing down specifics and requesting quotes from vendors and venues, it’s nearly impossible to know how much YOU might spend for YOUR wedding under YOUR unique set of circumstances. Weddings are not easy to generalize! That being said, there are some universal tips that I’d love to pass along!

1. Start saving early. This might be my single best tip, especially if (like me) you tend to have “champagne tastes on a beer budget.” Even if you might not know exactly how much your wedding will cost, it’s a pretty good bet that it will be expensive. Like all expensive things, the sooner you start saving, the smaller the amount per month you need to save, and therefore the less painful it will be. If you know you’re going to want some of those amazing extras that a parent might not be as willing to splurge on, like videography, I’d highly recommend this tip!

2. Set your budget. Thankfully, even though it’s nearly impossible to know how much the wedding in your head will cost before getting engaged and talking to vendors, it’s still possible to set your budget, because your budget should be based on the amount of money you have, not the amount of money you want to spend. In addition to tallying whatever you and your fiancĂ© will contribute, check in with both sets of parents (if they haven’t made the first move). I would recommend going into the conversation with a grateful heart and without expectations, and being thankful for any contribution they might want to make.

3. Prioritize your budget. Once you’ve determined the pool of money available to spend, it’s time to begin slicing it up. Start to talk with your fiancĂ© about what’s most important to you both, and start to reach out to vendors and venues with whom you’re interested in working. As quotes come in, you’ll start to see how your money might need to be allocated.

Side Note: Wedding quotes can be eye-popping and confusing at first, if you plan to have a wedding coordinator, let them help you through the confusion.

4. Set up good relationships with vendors from the start. Keep in mind that most vendors like to work with nice, calm couples who respect their work and want to collaborate with them in the creative process. Tell them about what you have planned for your wedding and why you’re excited about it; tell them why you love their work. Vendors tend to go above and beyond for clients they genuinely like and who are appreciative of them — it’s just human nature.

5. Negotiate with care. A photographer might be willing to take 10% off his package price under certain circumstances, but please don’t expect a discount — they’ve set their prices with careful thought. Instead, if the price quoted is beyond your budget, see if you can subtract something from what he’s presenting — an album, hours of coverage, number of prints — for a lower price. A florist should be able to work with you on what flowers are in season and which blooms will have the most impact per dollar. I’ve even known some vendors who love to travel waive their travel fees for certain locations that they’ve always wanted to visit — if you’re getting married in a particularly stunning location, it might be worth a shot! As I said above, just remember to go in with a grateful heart and without expectations or a bossy attitude.

One more tip: if you have the luxury of a long engagement, you might be able to book vendors like photographers or videographers at, say, their 2013 prices even though your wedding is in 2014.

6. If necessary, cut based on your priorities. I hate blanket suggestions on what to cut from the budget, because those decisions should be based solely on what’s most important to y’all as a couple.  That being said, a few ideas to get your wheels turning: skip ceremony flowers (choose a beautiful location instead); skip favors unless you can think of something that’s truly meaningful to you as a couple; buy a pre-loved gown or sell yours post-wedding; borrow a car from a friend or just ride in yours instead of renting a limo or vintage car; skip a reply card and have guests email their RSVPs; order a simple cake design and crown it with a gorgeous topper (bonus points if it’s a family heirloom!).

7. Consider alcohol. Though alcohol can be a big expense for a wedding, there are actually many ways to cut its cost. A few suggestions: cut the champagne toast; offer a limited bar (beer and wine) all night, or offer a limited bar at cocktail hour then open it up to a full bar at the reception or inquire about purchasing your own alcohol (especially if you have somewhere you can get a discount). Also, don’t assume that either paying by consumption or paying a per-person price is cheaper — here, it really helps to know your audience.

8. Supplement your professionals. While some things should ALWAYS be left to professionals, I think there are some amazing ways to cut costs while working hand-in-hand with the pros you’ve hired! For example, a recent client chose to provide the centerpiece containers and ribbon to her florist, knowing she’d be charged a mark-up for those items.  As long as the professionals you are working with are ok with this type of saving, it’s a great way to help save your pennies.
 
9. Borrow! Not everything has to be bought new (or even old) for your wedding! Borrowed pieces can lend a beautiful air of family and heritage to your wedding day, and, in my experience, guests love having a hand in the magic! I’m considering borrowing my clutch, my bracelet, my earrings, easels from my artist friend, pillows and blankets for our lounge area, a cake stand, and probably many other things I can’t remember. Replacing expense with meaning = always a win in my book.

10. Share! Know someone else getting married close to your date? If you do, you can purchase several things to use at both weddings. You’ll be able to share some bulk supplies (like out-of-town bags) and therefore get a lower cost. I’ve heard amazing stories of brides getting married on the same weekend at a venue using the same tent draping, for instance, or the same arbor for their ceremony. See if your venue will put you in touch with your fellow brides, or put out feelers on social media or through friends of friends to see who you might be able to connect with! I love this idea!

11. Take care of your guests. We like details as much as y’all, but at some point (especially when you’re on a limited budget), it’s time to stop worrying about what your wedding will look like in photos, and start thinking about how it will FEEL to you and your guests. Sometimes, $15 worth of bug spray at a cocktail hour can be worth more than all the fancy linens and candles in the world. People will remember when you made them feel comfortable and included and welcomed, and they will also remember when they had to wait in a line or ate cold food or trek a mile to the bathroom because you didn’t want to pay for a port-a-potty. They will almost certainly forgive you for those things, because they are your dearest friends and family and they love you, but wouldn’t it be better to avoid them altogether? In my book, gracious hospitality is always a budget “do.”

12. Remember it’s not the only party you’ll throw in your lifetime. As I am planning with clients, every so often they’ll see an idea that they really, really want to include… except that it doesn’t fit in their budget, or it didn’t fit with the aesthetic of the day. Whenever this happens, I sit them down and issue a reminder: this party will not be the last one you would throw in your lifetime. It might be the biggest, and it might be the most expensive, but you have years of dinner parties, birthday parties, and anniversary parties ahead, and there will more than likely be a place to incorporate this idea of the day into one of those future bashes. This almost always talks clients down from the ledge :)

I’ll leave you with perhaps my favorite way to sum up wedding budgeting: it’s possible to have a wedding on any budget, but it’s not possible to have any wedding on any budget. Your wedding will be gorgeous and meaningful and memorable because you two are at the center of it — blissfully happy and in love — no matter how much you spend or don’t spend. Years from now, that love and happiness is what you and your guests will remember above all else.  Happy planning!

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Quick Tip Tuesday: Venue Scouting & Shoes

Venue scouting is tough work. If I could make one suggestion, please wear comfortable shoes! When finding the perfect spot for my couples, I’ve found myself in some pretty crazy terrain and have seen several of my couples ruin beautiful shoes during the search. I typically go with some great flats or even boots depending on the region. If you’re a lady and just have to have a little lift, wedges can work, but if you’re really up for a day of marathon scouting, consider comfort this one time. Here are just a few of my favorite go tos when finding THE spot 'cause y'all know how I feel about shoes.








Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Quick Tip Tuesday: Getting Healthy For The Big Day

If fitness is not already part of your lifestyle, considering investing in yourself by hiring a trainer during the planning process. If possible do it together. Not only will it help you look and feel your best on your wedding day but you will also learn some tips on how to create a healthier lifestyle together. Win win.